What Would You Like To See On Radical Femininity?

We’re approaching a new year.  2016 will begin in a few days.

Does anyone else think that time goes by faster the older you get?  It sure seems that way to me!

As we being 2016, we would like to know what are your thoughts concerning this blog.  Two years ago, we began this online adventure for two reasons: we wanted to encourage other ladies who delight in femininity, and we wanted to help supplement the family income.  This is why on some days you may see posts about allowing the Father to bless your womb, how Christians should react to homosexual marriages, or why Israel should be important to us … and other days you may see a classy country outfit, a Lilla Rose hair accessories giveaway, a chicken enchilada recipe, or a post about carseat baby blankets!

(For a list of our 25 most popular posts, you’re welcome to visit our two-year anniversary post!)

We would like to know what we can do to make this website a blessing to you.  What type of posts are your favorite and what would you like to see more of?

  • Family-related?
  • Healthy recipes?
  • Cottage Industries?
  • Modest Outfits?
  • Titus 2?
  • Reviews/Giveaways?
  • Hebraic Roots?
  • Discounts/Sales?

Please leave a comment or send us an email with your thoughts.  If you have any suggestions, please don’t hesitate to share them.  There are thousands of blogs and online resources swirling around cyberspace, and I don’t want to blog just because it’s “the thing to do”.  There are too many projects calling for my attention and as much as I enjoy this blog, I don’t want to waste our time.  Your feedback and interaction is what gives us the inspiration to carry on so please let us know what you’re thinking!

Have a great week, y’all! 😉

An Anniversary – Two Years Of Radical Femininity!

Actually, I suspect we have been practicing radical femininity for more than two years, but it was two years ago today that we published our first post.  “Radical Femininity” was a phrase that had run through my mind for quite some time before November 18th, 2013.  It was a topic I wanted to tackle but I wondered about the best format to do so.  When I brought up the blog idea and my family was enthusiastic, it was time to begin!  I had been blogging at Shining Stars for years but I wanted this to be a little different … a little more personal, perhaps.  Shining Stars is made up of submissions from people around the world and the focus isn’t on any one person or family.  With Radical Femininity, I wanted to share more about our family’s journey in this walk and our experiences.  I am so happy that my mother and sisters have also participated in this adventure!

It has been a wonderful blessing to “meet” ladies from around the world who share a similar vision for Godly womanhood.  None of us are exactly the same in our beliefs and how we practice them, but it is such an encouragement to fellowship, even via cyberspace, with sisters in the faith.  Each time you leave a comment or send us an email, we are blessed.

To celebrate our second anniversary, I decided to share 25 of the most popular posts from the past two years!  I tried to select one from every month but some months we hadn’t posted anything and during others we had several good articles that had sparked a lot of interest.  So I just went through and pulled what I thought were the top 25 based on readership response.  Apparently we have a fancy plugin called Embedly that went into action once I started copying and pasting web-links into this post!  Unfortunately, it isn’t fancy enough (or smart enough) to display the featured images on ALL the posts … only some of them!  On others, it displays our header graphic.  This bothered me a little bit but I am trying to get the post finished and scheduled before heading out of town to travel a couple thousand miles to deliver puppies with my father and sister!  I’m squelching the perfectionist-in-me and calling it good for now 🙂

So pour yourself a cup of tea or coffee and enjoy!

http://radicalfemininity.com/2013/11/23/i-like-spending-time-with-you/

http://radicalfemininity.com/2013/12/11/do-well-dont-fear/

http://radicalfemininity.com/2014/01/31/enjoy-the-adventure/

The Big Question …

Baked Brie

Too Old To Get Married???

Sarah’s Whole Wheat Challah or Bread

Israel … What Does It Matter?

When Prayer Is Answered

http://radicalfemininity.com/2014/09/20/in-loving-memory/

Catching Up With Some Sukkot Pictures!

What Do You Do … With Pumpkin?

Chag Chanukkah Sameach – Happy Feast Of Dedication!

A Surprise – Celebrating 25 Years!

How Do You Keep It All Together?

The Elsie Dinsmore Series – A Book Review!!

Raising Children – It’s What They Do Best

A Mother’s Day Tribute To My Husband

Ain’t You Glad You’re Single?

Homemade Mayonnaise Recipe

What Are The Fruits Of The Spirit?

Should Christians Celebrate Homosexual Marriage?

Yom Terurah – A Call To Repentance? (And A Linky Party!)

Teacup And Mug Exchange Reveal!

Why Do You Wear A Headcovering?


 

P.S. Don’t forget to participate in the Counting Your Blessings Challenge that’s happening right now!!Thankful_Square SMALL

We Got … The Liebster Award!

Amanda, at Grace and Gusto, nominated us for the Liebster Award back in April, and I am just now getting to it.  Sorry about that!  Here we go:

liebsterThe general ‘rules’ for accepting a Liebster Award are:

1. Post the award on your blog.
2. Thank the blogger who presented this award and link back to their blog.
3. Write 11 random facts about yourself.
4. Nominate 11 bloggers who you feel deserve this award and who have less than 200 followers.
5. Answer 11 questions posted by the presenter and ask your nominees 11 questions.

So for my answers …

1. What made you decide to begin blogging?

Well I started a blog on the Shining Stars website several years ago to provide some encouraging resources between magazine issues, but I didn’t really want it to be a personal blog since Shining Stars isn’t my personal magazine!  So then we decided to start Radical Femininity which would be centered around our lives as a family and what the Heavenly Father has done in them, as well as hopefully providing some income from home (that’s why we really appreciate when our readers order through our affiliate links 🙂 )

2. If you could switch places with someone for a day, who would it be?

Oy!  That’s a hard one!  I think Deborah in the Bible.

3. Where would you most like to travel?

I love Israel and would go there anytime I have the opportunity.  Outside of that, I would love to tour Europe.

4. What is your fondest memory involving food?

I don’t know that it could be termed a fond memory but probably the most memorable one was when our family was on a puppy delivery trip (which equals 15 dogs and 9 people in our 9-passenger van, and 3,000 mile round trip) and pulled into a hotel in Buffalo New York around 2am.  We hadn’t eaten any supper so we ordered a big sheet pizza … you know, the one you have trouble getting through the door!  The toppings were anchovies,  pineapple and jalepenos.  It was so tasty but so hot … we sure enjoyed eating it but didn’t feel so great afterward, probably due more to the fact that it was 3am than anything else!

5. What is your favorite book?

Don’t have one!  I have enjoyed so many books that I really can’t pick a favorite – I plan to share some of the ones I really like in an upcoming blog post.  I love to read and reread books by G.A. Henty.  I love historical books, both fiction and non-fiction, especially autobiographies or true stories about real people.  

6. Who do you consider a role model?

My parents.

7. If you won a million dollars, what is the first thing you would buy?

First, tickets to Israel.  Second, a farm 🙂

8. What is your favorite hobby or pasttime?

I don’t really have hobbies.  Maybe reading?  Sometimes writing.

9. What is your favorite meal?

I like all types of food!  I enjoy the Thanksgiving-style meal.  I also like middle-eastern dishes.  I usually request a Chicken Divan dish for my birthday … chicken, broccoli and rice with a swiss cheese and white wine cream sauce.  Mmm ….

10. What is the weirdest food you have ever eaten?

Depends on who you ask!  Morel mushrooms and fiddleheads (a type of fern)?  Cow tongue?  Mole (spicy chocolate sauce)?  Some people think the anchovy, pineapple, jalepeno pizza is pretty weird, but it’s awful tasty 🙂

11. What is one thing you would change about your life?

I would love to have a stronger, closer relationship with my Heavenly Father and Savior, and be a better daughter and sister.

And now for the 11 facts about myself …

1. I believe in being a homemaker, even if I’m not married yet.
2. I am the oldest of seven children (eight including our stillborn brother)
3. When I was really young I wanted to live without electricity … and we did it for several years!
4. Horses are my favorite animal but I’ve never owned one (my father says I’ll have to find a husband who will get one for me!)
5. I raise and sell puppies … and absolutely love it!  It’s an enjoyable way to generate income from home.
6. I like dark chocolate (88%).
7. I drink goat’s milk in my coffee.
8. I enjoy playing worship songs on guitar and piano.
9. I strongly dislike swimming in cold water (cold equals anything a little cooler than lukewarm!)
10. I would very much like to visit Montana one day.
11. The “a” in my name is pronounced like the “o” in hot.  And if you really want to say it the right away, the “H” is actually a softly guttural “ch” 🙂

And now for the nominees …

1. Virtuous Daughters
2. Blog Of Joy
3. Sunshine’s Journey Journal
4. A Bright Light In A Dark World
5. Clare’s Spot
6. Modern{ish} Life
7. By The Eastern Gate
8. Majestic Golden Rose
9. Our Little Family
10. Life To The Full
11. Home On The Erie Canal

And the 11 questions for them …

1. What is your favorite Bible verse?
2. Have you ever slaughtered an animal for food?
3. If you could live in any era, which would it be?
4. What is your favorite style of music?
5. What country would you really like to visit?
6. Do you garden?
7. What is one prayer that you have had answered?
8. Do you like the country or city?
9. Have you ever been to the chiropractor?
10. Would you prefer tea or coffee?
11. What is your life goal?

Have fun and thanks Amanda and Grace and Gusto!!

To God Be The Glory, Great Things He Hath Done …

Twenty-four years ago, a church full of people sang this song while my parents walked down the aisle, having been presented as Mr. and Mrs. Tom Washburn.

When my parents got married, they prayed a prayer that was something along these lines …

“Father, show us Your truth, and then give us the strength to walk in it.”

Words cannot express how thankful I am for this legacy.  Because the Heavenly Father has seen fit to grant them this request, and because of their willingness to be faithful to His leading, our family has seen a life of beautiful blessings and adventures that I wouldn’t trade for anything!

A very happy anniversary to the best parents in the world!!

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Finding The Balance

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(You might like to read:
Part One: Why Would I Want To Leave Home?,
Part Two: Biblical Reasons For Being At Home,
Part Three: What Do You Do With Yourself All Day?)

scalesThe other aspect that I want to address is that of swinging the pendulum too far in the other direction and being totally focused on preparing for marriage that you lose touch with reality.  As I mentioned before, I totally believe that young ladies should spend time learning how to love their husbands and children and be keepers at home.  But I have heard people complain about girls who can only talk about their hope chests and what they want in a husband!  Some young ladies are so focused on marriage that they are not content with living their lives in the here and now.  This is not being a successful daughter at home!  As important as it is to prepare for marriage and motherhood, we must also be honest with ourselves and admit that some people are not created for that role.  Granted, these people are few and far between, but we have to be willing to lay down our hopes and dreams and goals, and be content that our heavenly Father knows what is best.

For some people, that means marriage at eighteen and a dozen children over a period of twenty years.  For others, that means not finding a spouse until upper twenties or even thirties or forties, and maybe not being able to have children at all.  And for a few people, that means never marrying at all.  If we are not completely surrendered to our heavenly Father’s will and plan, we will find it impossible to be content in our circumstances.

Several years ago, I was frightened by the idea that I might never get married!  I saw these wonderful young ladies who were unmarried and in their upper twenties, and I worried about how I would respond if that was YHWH’s will for me.  Then somehow my heart was changed, to the point that I can honestly say … as much as I would like to be married and have a family, I believe I could be joyful and content if that was not the Father’s plan for me.  And I want to encourage all young ladies to seek that place of contentment if you have not already found it.  I know that may be a scary thought, but we must realize that we serve a God who desires the very best for us and if we can whole-heartedly submit to His plan, we will find peace and joy and contentment.

So while I believe each young lady should practice and learn how to be a wife and mother, I also want to remind you not to view marriage as a cure-all or think that you’re really not living life to its fullest until you are married. We should be focused on serving and glorifying the heavenly Father each day of our lives … which brings me to the last aspect I would like to address.

woman-praying-with-bible-w350x2321 Corinthians 7:34 says “The unmarried woman cares about the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit.”  I think that sometimes we focus so much on the physical aspects of preparing for marriage and motherhood, that we forget about the spiritual aspects.  Learning how to change diapers, prepare meals and balance a checkbook are all good things to know, but the most important thing we can be doing with our unmarried years, is caring about the things of the Lord.  In looking back at the Titus 2 passage, we see that the young women were to learn to be discreet, chaste and good, in addition to loving their husbands and children and being homemakers.  But it seems that we often focus on the husbands, children and homemaking part, and forget about the characteristics that we are supposed to be learning and accomplishing!

An unmarried daughter has so many opportunities, whether that be ministry, or cottage industries, or learning new skills, or hobbies – there are so many things we can do with our time!  But I believe it is imperative that we focus on the opportunities to strengthen and develop our spiritual lives and learn to be holy both in body and spirit.  Again, this may look different for different people.  Some young ladies may devote their time and energies to memorizing large quantities of Scripture, while others may find their calling in intercessory prayer.  Still others may have opportunities to be the hands and feet of our Savior, ministering to those in need.  Each of us must seek the heavenly Father to know how He would have us serve Him.  In order for us to be successful as daughters at home, our focus must be in the right place … our number one goal must be to care about the things that are important to our Creator.  If we can accomplish that, then everything else will fall into place!

There are so many things that I have learned through this journey of Godly womanhood and I know that I have a lot more to learn, but I hope that what I have shared will be a blessing and encouragement to some of you.  In closing, I want to emphasize that when dedicate our lives to serving the heavenly Father and following His plans and purposes, we will experience His blessings in a wonderful way.

All throughout Scripture there is a recurring theme … when His people follow Him and obey Him, He pours out showers of blessings.  When they do not surrender their lives to Him, there are negative consequences.  YHWH makes a promise in His Word that He will honor those that honor Him.  That is such a beautiful promise and it is wonderful to know that we can trust Him to do just that.  Sure, honoring Him in our choices and decisions may not always be the easiest thing to do, but we know that in the difficult moments we can turn to our Savior who was in all points tempted as we are, yet without sin.  And we also know, as it says in James 1:12, “Blessed is the man who endures temptation; for when he has been approved, he will receive the crown of life which the Lord has promised to those who love Him.”

I have many favorite Bible verses, but there is one that is a constant inspiration and sums the way that I desire to live my life, and I would like to leave you with it.  Romans 12:2 says, “And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.”

What Do You Do With Yourself All Day?

What Do You Do With Yourself All Day?

(You might like to read Part One: Why Would I Want To Leave Home? and Part Two: Biblical Reasons For Being At Home)

Many daughters feel the criticism from skeptics who wonder, “what do you do with yourself all day?”  Some people view stay-at-home daughters as prisoners and slaves to abusive, authoritative parents, while others view them as lazy, irresponsible and a financial drain on their families.  While I am sure there may be some girls out there that would fit either of these descriptions, my personal experience and those that I have observed in other families, has been much different!

There are several things that I have learned, and am still learning, that I believe are vital aspects of a unmarried daughter’s role and I would like to share some thoughts about these aspects in the hope that it will be helpful to someone else.

What Do You Do With Yourself All Day?

The first aspect is the incorrect perception of what it means to be a successful daughter at home.  I think we, as unmarried daughters, often feel the need to perform and prove ourselves … to show people that we can be just as successful at home as outside of it.  In talking with other young women, I believe there is a common misnomer among daughters at home that we have to be “doing something”.  There is a mindset out there that if you aren’t working in your father’s business, or running your own home business, or taking college courses at home, or blogging, or teaching a girl’s Bible study class, or helping young mothers, etc etc, the list could go on and on … if you only spend your days at home cooking, cleaning, running errands for your parents and taking care of younger siblings … then you’re not really being successful at home.

Personally, I have been blessed with many different opportunities and projects, including the magazine and running several home businesses.  These things keep me extremely busy.  And although I am grateful for these opportunities and I know the heavenly Father has given them to me, it is often difficult to find the proper balance between handling the responsibilities and devoting my time and energy to serving my family.  When we start focusing on other responsibilities and placing more importance on them rather than our families, we have lost the key to being successful daughters at home.  Sure, we may live in our father’s house and be under his authority, but if our projects get in the way of serving our families and learning the character traits described in Titus 2, we need to reevaluate our priorities.

What Do You Do With Yourself All Day?

I think one of the most amazing things about the Proverbs 31 woman is that she was not only an incredible entrepreneur and she ministered to the poor and needy, but she took care of her household as well.  That is pretty incredible!  I know from personal experience that it is difficult to keep family first when you have business and ministry opportunities.

There are times when I am trying to prepare a meal for the family and someone calls, wanting to buy one of our puppies.  Half an hour later I am still listening to them reminisce about the dog they had for fifteen years, or answering questions that have already been discussed on our website!  There are other times when I have magazine emails to respond to, or hours of work on design and layout, and my little sister wants to play a game or go walk in the woods.  Business phone calls and magazine emails are important, but my family is more important.  This is something I have to constantly remind myself of.

What Do You Do With Yourself All Day?

So my desire is to encourage young ladies … know that you do not have to perform and prove yourself in the eyes of the world!  While I am a proponent for running businesses from home and being involved in home-based ministries, I also know that the most important thing an unmarried daughter can focus on is serving her family.  If your whole day is centered around taking care of your family and you find joy and contentment in doing that, you are successful!

In a way, it’s similar to how people view stay-at-home moms.  Everyone commends women who can be successful wives and mothers and run a business or ministry.  But what about the mothers who spend their days changing diapers, wiping spills and rocking babies?  Their “ministry” is not as public, but it is still as worthy and commendable.  In the same way, if you are a young lady who doesn’t have opportunities for public ministry or entrepreneurial endeavors and feel like you are “only” serving your family, don’t be discouraged.  Your family is your mission field and your influence in their lives is just as important as anywhere else!

What Do You Do With Yourself All Day?

(stay tuned for the last post in the series – Part Four: Finding The Balance)

Biblical Reasons For Being At Home

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(You might like to read Part One: Why Would I Want To Leave Home?)

In looking for Biblical instruction about the unmarried daughter’s role, something that really got my attention were verses like Colossians 3:20, which says “Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord,” and verse 18 of the same chapter which says, “Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord.”

Obviously there is a principle here that a daughter who is a child is supposed to be in obedience and submission to her parents and a wife is supposed to be in obedience and submission to her husband.  So then does it make sense that a young lady who is no longer a child and not yet married, should be independent and submitted to no one?  According to Scripture, the answer is no.  In Numbers 30 we find that a father has spiritual authority over his unmarried daughter and can protect her from making a foolish vow or commitment, just as a husband has authority to protect his wife from doing the same.

We find several references to an unmarried daughter being in her father’s house in that same chapter, and in Leviticus 22, we also read that if a woman was divorced or widowed, she was to return to her father’s house as she was in her youth.  While these passages would seem to be a clear indication that an unmarried daughter remained in her father’s house, I think it is also important to look at the Scriptural examples that we have.  Here are some of the unmarried daughters that I discovered:

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  • Genesis 19; we find Lot’s daughters were in his house.
  •  Genesis 24; we find Rebekah serving her family and in so doing, she ended up serving the man who was to introduce her to her husband.
  • Genesis 29; we find Rachel caring for her father’s flocks.
  • Exodus 2; Zipporah and her sisters were also caring for their father’s flocks.
  • Judges 11; we find Jepthah’s daughter in his house.

I also found that the only Biblical examples we have of unmarried women living on their own, was Rahab in Jericho and the two harlots that brought the baby to King Solomon.  In saying that, I have to add the disclaimer that I am not accusing a woman who lives on her own of being a harlot!  Far from it!  But I do find it interesting that the only Scriptural examples of unmarried women who were not in their father’s homes were those of ungodly women.

But I think the most convincing passage is Titus 2:3-5, which says, “the older women likewise, that they be reverent in behavior, not slanderers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things — that they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed.”

Everyone is familiar with these verses, they are probably quoted more often than any other verses relating to a woman’s Biblical role.  I always understood them to mean that the older women are to teach the young wives how to love their husbands and children and keep their homes, etc.  But a brief study of that passage will reveal that the word for “young women” simply means “young, youthful, or recently born” … it does not indicate wifehood at all.

Our family came to realize that these things the young women were to learn, are things that must be practiced.  They are not accomplished overnight.  How can we expect a woman to train herself for a career, to practice being independent and self-sufficient … and then suddenly she is married and must submit to her husband and be a keeper of her home?  Personally, I feel that this verse is referring to the unmarried young women.  They are the ones that should be learning to love their husbands and children, to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good and obedient to their husbands … so that once they reach that stage of life, they will have the necessary training and practice for a smooth transition into the role of wife, mother and homemaker.

The exciting thing is – these are things that can be learned at home!  You won’t accomplish these traits by paying thousands of dollars of tuition for four years on a college campus.  And you can’t practice being a homemaker while working a regular, eight hour a day job.  But most young women are provided with the ideal circumstances for learning and practicing these aspects of Godly womanhood … and that is their homes and families.  What better way to learn to love and obey your future husband, than to treat your father in this way?  What better way is there to prepare to love your children, than to practice this with your own siblings?  What better place is there to learn how to take care of a home?  And think about all the things that you can learn and study, whether it be character traits, special skills, etc!

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This is why I am convinced that my place as an unmarried daughter is in my parents’ home, under their authority, serving my family.  It is the perfect training ground to prepare me for my own home and family one day.  Some people may think that I have a very narrow vision for the future, and in some ways, I do.  I believe that a woman should be a keeper at home, whether married or unmarried.  It is common to hear people say that you can be anything you want to be.  Just believe in yourself, dream big, and you can do whatever you want to do.  But this is not a Scriptural mindset.  Titus 2:5 says that the young women are to learn these things so that the word of God is not blasphemed.  I do not believe that it is pleasing to the heavenly Father when women do not fulfill the role for which He created them.  When we do not fulfill the roles for which we were created, we cannot expect positive results.

In saying all that, I must add that while I feel very strongly about what I believe to be right, I also know that there are many exceptions to the rule.  We live in an imperfect world and are surrounded by imperfect people and imperfect situations.  I know there are some girls who do not have fathers to provide for them, and there are other girls whose fathers want them to work or go to college.  I believe that each family and individual must decide how to walk out the convictions the heavenly Father has given them and it is not our place to judge whether they are doing it correctly or not.  This path is going to look different for each family, which brings me to the next topic I want to address … what does a daughter at home do?

(stay tuned for Part Three: What Do You Do With Yourself All Day?)