I Am Not Waiting For My Prince Charming

“I’m waiting for my prince.”

We’ve all most likely heard this or said it ourselves.  What a beautiful thing it is to save ourselves for our husbands!  To remain pure, to not give in to this world’s evil pressure, to give myself completely to the love of my life is something I long for so much, but today I’m talking about a different kind of waiting … a kind of waiting that we shouldn’t be doing.  Please hear me out before you start throwing stones … hopefully you will agree with me by the end of this post, and if not, I’m really sorry!

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There seem to be two common mindset extremes when it comes to the role of unmarried ladies: you either move out on your own, get a degree and become independent at “the age,” or you stay at home and live off of your parents, waiting for Prince Charming to show up, right? I have issues with both of those.

Although I strongly believe that an unmarried daughter should stay under her father’s protection and guidance until marriage, I also strongly believe that unmarried young ladies should take her time at home very seriously, and use it to reach out and bless those around her.

I am NOT saying that all young ladies are like this … I am privileged to know many sweet friends who would not fall under either of these categories.  But since this topic seems to be misunderstood and misrepresented at times, I wanted to share my thoughts on this subject.  I think this is something all of us have to deal with at some point or another in life, and it has been in the forefront of my thoughts a lot for the last couple of months.

A few years ago I was talking with a young lady I had met once or twice before, and when the topic of “what’s new” came up, I asked her what she was doing with herself.  She told me that she had been working at a store down the road for a while but had been laid off, so now she didn’t really do anything.

Although the years have passed, I still think of that little conversation and it’s so sad to know how many of us are sitting around waiting for something to happen in our lives – wasting precious moments that we could be hard at work building our Master’s kingdom.  There ARE times to wait for the our Creator’s instructions and leading – please don’t get me wrong!  But we should remember to ask ourselves, “am I waiting on Him to reveal His plans to me or am I just passing time without any ultimate motive or reason for what I’m doing right now?”

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I recently looked up the word “wait,” and was surprised by the definition.  It means “the action of staying where one is, or delaying action until a particular time, or until something else happens.”  That kind of waiting is something I don’t want my name attached to!

Life is short, gals, way too short to spend waiting and inactive, hoping for something to “just happen to us.”  No, you may not be married yet, but that doesn’t mean that life is on hold!  On the contrary, I would suggest that this is one of the most important seasons of your life!  It is an essential time of learning, perfecting, stretching, maturing and learning some more – a time that should be taken seriously.

I know I may be a little young to be writing such a post, and I’m sure there are plenty of ladies out there who could do a much better job at writing this than me.  But I feel like this something that was put on my heart to share specifically with you unwed ladies, and I really hope this will encourage you (and me too!) to stay focused on what is really important.

Although marriage and motherhood are two of the most honorable and important things a woman could ever do, not everybody’s knight in shining armor rides in to save the day on the damsel’s 18th birthday, and that’s okay!  We have to keep living regardless of what life gives us, and not just live … we need to bloom where we’re planted!  If we don’t learn patience and contentment now when it seems hardest, when will we ever learn it?

My knight may show up in 2 years or 22 years … or maybe never.  I’d preferably choose sooner than later, but our desires don’t always line up with our Master’s perfect plans and we need to rest in the knowledge that His ways are far above ours, and He’s working things out for the best!

A couple weeks ago some friends with babies came over and while holding one of them, a longing came over me to have a baby of my own in my arms.  You know that feeling … the precious baby is snuggled up in your arms and starts to drift off to sleep, and you’re left wishing that time would stand still for a little while 🙂

But I had a decision to make.  I could choose to let those thoughts grow, watering little seeds of discontentment, or I could stop it then and there and choose to be thankful for the place in which I am now.  I had to understand that these seemingly innocent thoughts were from none other than the enemy himself, trying to steal away my happiness. 

You see, he’s a lot smarter than we give him credit for being … he often uses good desires, hopes and dreams to mislead and rob us of our happiness, contentment and faith … you name it.  Is it wrong to want to be married and have a family of our own?  Of course not!  But it IS wrong to become so consumed with those thoughts that we aren’t content with where the Father has placed us at this time? Absolutely!

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There are two ways to look at this phase of life we’re in before marriage … we can either see it as a time of hanging out until he finally gets here, or an exciting time to learn skills that will help our families and better prepare us for our future.  It’s our choice.  In other words, you can spend your time watching movies, reading romance novels and daydreaming about your glorioushappily ever afterfuture, or you can get off the couch and get ready for it!

Which will you do?

Soooo … what do we do now???  Living at home means helping out with chores every now and then and being a couch potato right?  No!  We have to keep pressing on regardless of where we are, who’s in our life and what we’re going through.  Something we have to grasp is that “our” time isn’t really ours at all.  We were put here on earth to bring glory to the Father and do His will and as purchased daughters of the King of Kings, our lives are really not our own to dispense with.  We weren’t put here to chase our own dreams, plans, desires and agendas (even when those include marriage, motherhood and all the other great things that we long for.)

There are SO many ways we can and should be preparing for our husbands right now, so stay tuned for my next post on “preparing for him”, where we will be going over some simple ways that we can be preparing for our husbands right now!  It will most likely be posted next week.  Until then, please examine your heart and ask yourself these questions:

  • Am I living in a way that my Heavenly Father would be pleased with?
  • Am I making the most of my time here on earth?
  • Am I doing all I can to bless, encourage and build up other people?
  • Am I preparing myself to be a virtuous wife and mommy someday?
  • If my husband walked into my life tomorrow, would he be pleased or disappointed with the things I am doing and the choices I’m making?
  • Am I waiting for the life that I want to start at some point, or am I living life to its fullest now?

With lots of love until next time ~ Abigail Aliyah

44 thoughts on “I Am Not Waiting For My Prince Charming

  1. Hey Abigail!
    What an AWESOME post! I agree so much with this! I can relate to this post so much. I do dream of my future prince, and that’s what every girl dreams of. But trying to get a boyfriend, and date so that dream comes true…well, depends n the age. Keeping our hearts pure for our future mates is a wonderful thing. It gives the mate an honor to have us as their own.
    Thank you so much for this post.

    Lynzie

    1. Thank you Lynzie! I’m so glad you enjoyed this post … it is always my goal when writing to do it so that other people can relate to, and be encouraged by it. Blessings! ~ Abigail Aliyah

  2. Dear Abigail,
    All my boys and daughter still live at home with us, and my eldest son is 25. My one friend, whom I love dearly but disagree with strongly on this topic says that she believes it’s important that guys and girls live on their own to learn how to cook, do laundry, handle finances and have the experience of living independently before marriage to appreciate what their spouse will bring to a marriage. Biblically, that’s just not so. If we as parents are doing our jobs correctly, those things will be taught in the home through out their time with us. Young people may require further schooling for the field they choose to go into, but the college scene, especially dorming, is not cost effective and not necessarily healthy from a spiritual stand point. I’ve seen many Christian young people during the 17-21 age group fall away from the sound, Biblical training they received as children to believe something totally opposite or reject Christ completely. My husband and I have become more convinced that these years should be spent in the safe surroundings of home with small opportunities to stretch the wings of independence in final preparation for the work God calls each of us to, guys and girls alike.
    I know I’ve gone down a rabbit trail with your post (sorry). I do agree whole heartedly with what you’ve written about NOT waiting for Prince Charming. Excellently written!
    – Mrs. Reed

    1. Thank you so much for your comment Mrs. Reed! It’s really encouraging to hear that from a parent’s perspective, and everything you wrote is so true and dear to my family’s hearts! I probably shouldn’t reply to everything you said, or I might wind up with a long book, but yes, I completely agree with what you said (especially about learning all of those things at home, and the dangers of college!) Blessings! ~ Abigail Aliyah

  3. Oh bless you dear girl for writing on such an unaddressed subject. It’s easy to slip into the ‘waiting’ stage of just…meandering through life one day at a time and not really doing anything purposeful. Here lately the Lord is showing me that marriage isn’t the beginning of my life at all. (it’s easy to have that misconception as well) I’m glad to say that I can honestly declare that I am content with my life right now. I’m learning everything I can and I’m doing what the Lord wants. It’s hard to harness the desires in my heart, but if they aren’t the Lord’s desires…than they will be fruitless and cause discontent.

    This post is somewhat timely for me as it confirmed what I knew the Lord was already telling me. Thank you so much for writing this! 🙂
    ~Haley

    1. I’m so glad you were blessed by this Haley! I know this is an issue I’ve struggled with, and I’m sure I still have so much to learn about it, but I’m so very thankful for a merciful God who is SO patient with me every step of the way, and loving family and friends who are inspiring role models to look up to!

      I actually wrote most this back in January, but didn’t feel right about posting it for some reason. My older sister Hannah kept reminding me to finish and post it, but I kept saying, “give me a little time!” Well that ‘little bit of time’ ended up being months later, but I am so glad it came at the perfect time for you! I love how things like that work out=). Blessings! ~ Abigail Aliyah

      Btw I really love y’alls blog – it is sooo encouraging!

  4. Hi Abigail!

    Your wisdom on this topic is astounding. What a fine job your parents have done in raising you. And kudos to you for living it out – by God’s grace. I so appreciate what you’ve shared here. I didn’t grow up understanding anything about courtship and waiting for Mr. Right and what a young lady should be doing until she gets married. I’ll be sharing your post over at my FB page.

    Blessings to you!
    Tiffiney
    WelcomeHomeMinistry.com

    1. Thank you so much Miss Tiffiney! I don’t know about being very wise on this topic … I actually wasn’t sure about even writing this, since I often feel inadequate and inexperienced when it comes to putting this into real life, but I’m learning that often the best way to learn things is together! What I wrote was just as much of a reminder for me, as for any other girl out there! And yes, my parents are pretty amazing:). Blessings! ~ Abigail Aliyah

  5. Abigail, you did a wonderful job addressing this subject, and showed wisdom beyond your years! I will add to the discussion, just because you get married, doesn’t mean you aren’t still waiting. On the contrary, the most difficult waiting times of my life have been after getting married. Waiting on Him to bless us with children, waiting on a new home, a new job, etc. Waiting is a part of life, and definitely worth learning to do faithfully!

    1. Thank you Britney! You made such a good point – waiting is something we’ll always be doing, so the sooner we learn to do it well, the better:). Love and miss y’all!

  6. Dear Abigail…WELL DONE!!! This article you wrote was surely inspired by THE HOLY SPIRIT!!! You are young now BUT each and everyday you are maturing in CHRIST JESUS!!! My prayer for you and your other sisters is that you all mature in CHRIST JESUS and fufill the plans that ADONAI has over your lives in JESUS MIGHTY NAME.AMEN!!!

  7. What a beautifully written and inspired post. God is so good and faithful. He clearly holds you in the palm of His hand and you have a beautiful and bright future.

    Thank you for sharing your heart here (and for linking up to the #SHINEbloghop).

    Wishing you a lovely weekend.
    xoxo

  8. You share some good thoughts here. A few questions: How does a woman know that she’ll marry? Should she live in expectation that she will? If a woman never marries, should she stay under her father’s protection until he dies? And then what happens to her when he dies? Please explain with Scripture. 🙂

    1. Thank you for your comment, Lydia! First of all, I want to let you know that I don’t believe there is a cut and dry rule for everyone when it comes to this … every situation is different, so it isn’t my place (or anyone else’s for that matter) to set cold hard rules for everyone.

      To answer your questions, no one is assured of marriage, although it is what we were created to do (Proverbs 18:22, Genesis 2:18). Obviously in some situations that isn’t the Heavenly Father’s plan for some people, and we should all be at a place of contentment and peace with whatever happens, but that doesn’t mean we shouldn’t prepare for what most of us will be called to do (unless otherwise shown.)

      I think we should definitely live with the expectation of marriage, although like I said above, we need to also be open to what He has for us. I can’t imagine that Proverbs 31 ladies “just happen” the day they marry … doesn’t it seem like they would’ve been trained and raised with the expectation of marriage and motherhood someday? And what about Titus 2 … why in the world should older woman waste their time trying to teach us younger woman to love our husbands, our children, to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, and obedient to their own husbands, if that isn’t even something we expect to do? We women were created to be helpmeets to our husbands someday, so yes, I definitely live with the expectation of marriage. But if he never shows up, I think I can honestly say from my heart that “it is well with my soul.” And if I never do have a family of my own someday, I can use the knowledge and experience I have attained to minister and bless others.

      I don’t have a black and white answer for your last two questions, because I believe that it isn’t our place to set rules for things like that. The Biblical standard is that families stay together – daughters in their parent’s homes until they were married. If a father dies and has unmarried daughters, it would be ideal for her to live with immediate family members or family in the faith. We don’t know the details of Mary and Martha’s situation, but it could be assumed that their father was no longer living and that was why they lived with their brother Lazarus. Psalm 68:6 says “God setteth the solitary in families”, indicating that it is not His Will for people to be “alone”. But I would never say it is a sin for a woman to live by herself. Every situation is different, and there are so many variables. If we live by “what ifs” all our life, then we will always have questions :). The bottom line is that we serve an awesome God, Whose ways are much higher than ours are, and He knows what our future will hold. We don’t have to worry about those kinds of things – we just have to develop a close relationship with Him so that we can hear His voice and leading for us.

      I hope that answers your questions! With lots of love and blessings ~ Abigail Aliyah

      1. Thank you, Abigail! You answered my questions well, and I appreciate it! I wasn’t really looking for you to “set a rule,” I was just curious about your personal opinion based on Scripture since you set forth many in your original post.

        I agree that young women should live with the expectation of marriage…but *only* in the sense that they should be preparing for marriage. *Not* in the sense that they set their hopes on it or prepare for a future that *must* include marriage. Yes, we were created to be a helper to a man in marriage, but there are many women to whom God never grants this gift. I do think we single women can so set our hearts and plans on a future marriage that we waste time in our younger single years that could be used for God. Marriage does not complete us and can’t fulfill us. We must not expect that God’s will for us includes it.

        The instruction in Titus 2 implies that the young women are married. They are to love their husbands and their children, and all the instructions that follow bank on that. I don’t have a husband or children, therefore it would seem older women should teach me differently.

        May I ask where you see the Biblical standard that families should stay together – daughters in their parents homes until they are married? I have never found any Biblical *instruction* to that end. Biblical *examples* yes, but not all women followed this practice. Not to mention, it was difficult in that day for a woman to care for herself.

        “God setteth the solitary in families.” What is a family? Jesus challenged the idea of *family* being limited to the *physical* family when he said in Mark 4:35, “For whoever does the will of God, he is my brother and sister and mother.” My spiritual family has deeper ties than my physical family. Plus, there are many women who don’t even have a physical family.

        Finally, I would like to share a bit of my story to explain how these points I’m making have played out in my life.

        I have longed for marriage ever since I was a little girl. I’ve never wanted to be anything but a wife and mother. I thought for sure I’d marry the first guy who was interested in me, we’d get married at age 17, and we’d live happily ever after.

        I am single with no prospects and will turn 30 years old in a few weeks. In the past ten years, six men have requested a relationship with me. Three were turned down because I wasn’t interested. Two were turned down because my dad didn’t approve. Only one turned into a relationship…a nine-month long “courtship” with an incredible man of God…we mutually decided we were not right for each other and ended that relationship with no regrets, simply grateful for how God used those months to change us and strengthen us…but that was one of the hardest days of my life.

        I love being at home, teaching children, cleaning, cooking, all the things a “Godly woman” should do. But God has not granted me a husband, or children, or a home. And one of the biggest things I’ve learned in all these years of relationship struggles and waiting for God’s best is this…

        God’s best may not be marriage.

        I had in my mind all this time that surely I would get married. I read all the books, went through all the training, served my siblings and my parents, and prayed for God to bring my husband soon! And maybe he will someday, but I think I’m wrong to sit around waiting, to dream and plan and hope, when I could pursue loving others and ministry to the body of Christ *as though that might be the ultimate thing I do in my life – because it might be!*

        I hope that makes sense. And sorry this is terribly long. But I wanted to share a bit of my story.

        Also, regarding living at home. I lived with my parents and siblings until I was 27 and my youngest sibling was 9 (I’m the oldest of 6). Up until this point, my parents encouraged me to live at home. But then they encouraged me to move on. They recognized that marriage may never come, and I couldn’t sit around waiting. Another sister is 22 and moved out of the home a few months ago – she is unmarried and plans to be on the mission field full-time within the year. My parents thought it best that she become more independent to prepare for her mission work.

        One of the things that encouraged me in the decision to move out was my responsibility (and this I do see in Scripture!) to care for my parents in their old age. If I’m dependent on them, how will I care for them? So, I work full-time (and have for several years). Maybe that money will be used for my wedding since my parents can’t afford one. Maybe it will be joined to my husband’s account someday, and in that way, I bless him and our family. Regardless, I have more to give, and am preparing to care for my parents someday.

        Anyway, sorry for the book! These thoughts are often on my mind, so I appreciate the discussion!

        1. Thank you for sharing what you did, Lydia! I don’t mind the “book” you wrote at all – I’m just sorry I didn’t reply sooner! For some reason I wasn’t notified about your second comment!

          Thank you for sharing your story with me … I understand more where you are coming from now! You said, “maybe he will someday (talking about God giving you husband) but I think I’m wrong to sit around waiting, to dream and plan and hope, when I could pursue loving others and ministry to the body of Christ as though that might be the ultimate thing I do in my life – because it might be!” – I completely agree! But something I tried to express in my post is that living at home and loving others and ministry don’t always have to be mutually exclusive. We might never marry, and that’s okay! I believe that it is wrong to sit around waiting, hoping and planning, when we don’t know when or if that day will ever come also! But at the same time, I believe that we should be learning and preparing for our future, which often includes marriage and motherhood. I hope that makes sense. There are two extremes we’re dealing with here, and I don’t agree with or condone either of them!

          You asked what “family” is … I believe that through the blood of Messiah we are all spiritual family, and if a young woman doesn’t have physical family (or maybe she has it, but not spiritual support from them) than I believe it is ideal for a Godly family to open their home to her.

          I understand where you are coming from as far as moving out and becoming independent goes, although I do have to say that I don’t think it is necessary in all cases. My parents have taught us from a young age to take care of our money, be industrious, and be “independent” in a way. We all make our own money, and choose how to spend, invest, or save it (although our parents do give us insight at times). Although this isn’t the case in many families, I think it is very helpful for young people to have that responsibility. I understand families work differently though, and it’s not my place to tell you (meaning anyone) what you should or shouldn’t be doing! I know friends who are in the upper 20’s to low 30’s range who live at home, help their parents and siblings out and do various types of ministry work, and they are completely content and happy with their life! Of course they want to be married someday, but until then they are serving those around them (not just family, although that should be our main goal) and finding fulfillment in that. My siblings also believe in caring for our parents in their old age, and are working towards that now, even though we’re still at home!

          I hope everything makes sense … I’m a little sleep-deprived and exhausted right now, so I feel like what I’m writing is a bit all over the place!

          Blessings! ~ Abigail Aliyah

  9. Thanks for this post. It is very enlightening. If it is God’s Will there will be a Prince Charming.
    Marilyn

  10. I am married, but you have ministered to my heart today! I am longing for some of those “good things”, but have allowed myself to be discontent with the season the Father has me in at this time.

    ” [The enemy] often uses good desires, hopes and dreams to mislead and rob us of our happiness, contentment and faith … you name it. Is it wrong to want to be married and have a family of our own? Of course not! But it IS wrong to become so consumed with those thoughts that we aren’t content with where the Father has placed us at this time? Absolutely!”

    Thank you for this encouraging post!
    Blessings,
    Dolly

    1. Thank you for sharing what you did Miss Dolly! It’s encouraging to hear that you were blessed by this! Blessings!

  11. Abigail, this is a wonderful post. I wish I had read it when I was much younger and single. I did not marry until I was 29 and I feel I did not make the best use of my single years. I will definitely steer my daughter differently. Unmarried Christian women need this kind of encouragement.

    1. Thank you for commenting Miss Heather! I often hear married ladies say things like that, which challenges me to work on myself even more! I know I don’t do a great job at it, but am trying:).

    1. So true Ashleigh! There is so much to be grateful for in life!

      I’m so sorry I missed your linkup … I’ve been off the “blogging world” for a while … I didn’t mean to hibernate, and didn’t even notice that I had been away so long until I started trying to catch up on things! Anyways, I’ll try to make sure to share this on your next linkup party if you’d like!
      Blessings!

  12. I read this a few times before commenting, the first time I didn’t really think anything wrong, I’ve always thought I’m not waiting around waiting to get married although I would like to get but the more I thought about it I started to see things I disagreed with.

    “the action of staying where one is, or delaying action until a particular time, or until something else happens.” – I want this kind of waiting attached to my name. This kind of waiting is not meaningless or without virtue. There are so many examples in the Bible of this kind of waiting. This kind of waiting is not inactive, useless or wasteful, God could be using this kind of waiting more than any action that I choose to do instead.

    Also being content does not mean I don’t have unfulfilled desires that I yearn for. God wants to give me my hearts desires. It may not always look like what I think it will or happen in the timing I want but He wants to know my desires. He wants for me to cry out to Him, to share my heart with Him. I can’t let the fear that my desires don’t line up with God’s plan stop me from having them. I’ll continue to take them to Him, because while I may not know, He does.

    I am waiting for my prince charming and I’m proud to proclaim that.

    I’m still learning to wait well but I’m waiting.

    1. Hi Nikki,

      I imagine Abigail will reply soon but I just wanted to share a few thoughts. If waiting means “learning to be content in anticipation”, then yes – by all means, we are waiting for our husbands. The problem that we’ve seen though is that many girls are so focused on a *potential* future marriage, and they miss out on opportunities that they have here and now to serve, learn skills, invest in the lives of others, etc.

      Abigail’s point in this article, and the point that we try to make throughout our writings, is that if we simply sit around “waiting” for marriage to happen and feeling like we’re missing out because it hasn’t happened yet … we’re going to waste a lot of time. 1 Corinthians 7 tells us that the unmarried woman cares for the things of the Lord, and yet our concern is that so many unmarried young ladies spend their time dreaming of Prince Charming, reading courtship novels and mooning over pinterest wedding boards, instead of caring for the things of the Lord. Serving people. Living fruitful and productive lives.

      That’s not to say that any of those things are wrong, and I totally agree that it isn’t wrong to have desires for marriage: He put those desires in us. But too many girls feel like their lives are on hold until they find their man, and that is what we are focusing on: in a nutshell, don’t let a desire for marriage rob you of joy and contentment, and prevent you from leading a purpose-filled life!

      So yes, we are “waiting” for our husbands in the sense that we are anticipating their coming, but not in the sense that our lives are on hold, without purpose and meaning, until they come!

    2. Thank you for your comment Nikki! I’m sorry I wasn’t able to reply sooner … I guess I didn’t make it clear enough, but when I said that I didn’t want my name attached to that definition of waiting, I was referring to the kind of waiting that is wasteful and meaningless. Like I tried to explain, I don’t believe it is wrong to wait … there are so many passages in the Bible where we are told to “wait on the Lord” … but many of us are turning that waiting season into something it was never meant to be.

      Of course I am waiting for my potential future husband and look forward to marriage so much, but we shouldn’t get so caught up in our potential future that we miss out on life right now.

      Yes, He wants us to pour our hearts out to Him, but He also wants us to seek Him. It seems that our focus is often on “God give me my heart’s desire,” or “God I want such and such” when He may be trying to show us something different. It isn’t wrong to have desires, hopes and dreams, but instead of telling Him what WE want, we should be more focused of what HE wants of us! He should always come first and foremost in our lives. I hope that made sense! With love and blessings ~ Abigail Aliyah

  13. Wow, Abigail, I’m impressed. I am a mother not quite, but almost old enough to be your grandmother. I clicked on your post because of the title–my 28 year old daughter is unmarried, but not waiting. She was in a relationship for 8 years and at this point, is working very hard, on her own, and not willing to settle for just anyone. She has learned that a man will not fulfill her and make her happy. You are a very wise young woman not to wait–to enjoy life and your journey. I had no idea you were only seventeen until I got almost to the end! Good for you!

  14. Very well put young lady! It’s so important to accept where the Lord has placed you at this very time, to look ahead for what you hope to be, but not be consumed with it.
    The Lord has things for you to do today as you prepare for the future, for a husband and family. One of the major blessing of a young lady at home is that she can be able to do many things for the Lord as well as being a blessing to her family.

  15. God has a purpose for each and every season of our lives, doesn’t He? And we’re responsible for stewarding each season well. Thank you for sharing your wisdom with us at Grace & Truth!

  16. Great read, Abigail! Thank you for writing it. I agree wholeheartedly and have tried to model and communicate this to my children.

    Many blessings!

  17. Very interesting post. While I am not in complete agreement that women must live home until marriage, I agree with many of your other principles here and definitely agree that we should seek guidance from our parents until the time which we are married and share that accountability with our spouse. I love what you said about “waiting” (or rather “not waiting”) I think it is definitely a trap you can potentially fall into, whether living home or on your own. I live in a small apartment building and a newlywed couple (my cousin actually) just moved in below me. They have already put more “home-y” touches into their home in a few weeks, than I managed to do in over a year in my apartment! It made me realize that I can and should cultivate a home, even if I am the only one living in it. I shouldn’t just treat this place as an “in-between” until I (maybe) meet someone and get married.

  18. This is Beautiful…..i am so in love with it. Looks like we maybe worlds apart but as younger women, we all go through more less the same challenges and i like that the Holyspirit lays more less the same message on our hearts concerning this. That said, waiting is never easy but it becomes worth the journey when God holds our hand…we have to surrender our hand though. thanks so much for this blog.

  19. Oh this is such a good post! Thanks so much for posting! Surrendering this area of our lives to Him is often one of the hardest things for young ladies but oh so worth while!

  20. Fabulous! Pinning to share with my 18-year-old! I especially love this: ““am I waiting on Him to reveal His plans to me or am I just passing time without any ultimate motive or reason for what I’m doing right now?”” GREAT question! Stopping by from Coffee & Conversation!

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