Our family enjoys old Western shows and we have recently been watching episodes of The Rifleman on youtube. In a particular episode, there were some disreputable women who were trying to set up a gambling hall in the local town and after they had been run out, Mark asked his father who those women were and what did they want? Lucas told him that they were card dealers and wanted to turn North Fork into a gaming town. Mark replied, “It seems like those women ought to stop playing cards and start raising kids!” and his father answered, “Yep, that’s what they do best!”
Of course, we all started laughing and my father said “can you believe it?!” Can you imagine if someone made that statement on TV today? I’m not sure what were the motives of the producers for including such a strong statement but it is a truth that few people want to recognize or acknowledge.
So as we prepare for Mother’s Day coming up in just a few days, I want to encourage the mothers out there … you are doing what you can do best! You may think it strange that an unmarried girl with no children is writing a post like this but I believe this standard is one for which even us unmarried young ladies should be striving and preparing.
I can understand when people who don’t believe in the God of the Bible refuse to follow His standards, but it puzzles me when people who believe in the Bible choose to live a lifestyle that is in direct conflict with its instructions. The simple fact is that women were created to be wives and mommies. There is no way to get around that! Your physical body should remind you of this fact every day. On the emotional level, women were created to be helpmeets to their husbands and nurturers to their children.
Even women who are so bound by feministic ideology as to reject this usually end up fulfilling their womanly roles, albeit in warped fashion. They end up being a helpmeet to someone (usually men) and they must nurture something (usually it’s animals). Even they cannot escape the innate desires that were woven into their DNA by a loving Heavenly Father who wants His creation to have what is best for them.
Women were created for a certain role and that is what they are good at. When they are “allowed” to truly fulfill that role and are respected for doing it … wow! It’s beautiful. Unfortunately the world in which we live condemns women who want to fulfill that role by taunting them with condemnation that they aren’t “talented” or “accomplished” or “educated” enough to be anything but a homemaker. It’s as if being wives and mommies doesn’t take any skill or talent or patience … it’s just something that you do if you aren’t good enough to do anything else!
From an economical viewpoint, have you seen the calculations that show a stay-at-home mom really ought to earn over $95,000 a year? If someone else were hired to take over her tasks and responsibilities, this is what they would get paid. And I believe that is a conservative estimate. Now I know why my father always said that my mother works harder than him!
But the financial aspect is nothing compared to the opportunity she has to reach the world through the lives of her children. We have all heard the saying “For the hand that rocks the cradle is the hand that rules the world” but I think many women do not believe it. They hire someone else to rock the cradle for them so that they can rule the world exclusive of husband and children. The end result is confusion and misery.
Sometime back I was listening to the Christian radio and there was a discussion between a female caller and the female DJ about how they had dropped their children off at the nursery that morning – I think one of them had a 6 week old baby and the other had a toddler. They were talking about how hard it was to leave their children and yet they were trying to make the best of it.
And I wanted to yell – You left your precious child in the care of others so that you could come to work … at a Christian radio station??? This is what our world has come to. Motherhood has lost its value and women are no longer expected to do “what they do best”, on the contrary – they are ridiculed when they do!
I know that raising children isn’t easy – I have observed my mother for 24 years! I have seen her get frustrated, overwhelmed, angry and hurt … and I have seen her ask forgiveness and start the day all over again. Raising children is probably the most difficult occupation in the world, because souls are involved. There are two kingdoms battling for those souls and the mother has the greatest influence on which kingdom will win. The father has great influence too but I sometimes wonder if the mother doesn’t have more. There are too many accounts of children who had no ‘count fathers and yet were led to the narrow path through the prayers and examples of their mothers.
But even if it is the most difficult thing to do, it can also be the most rewarding. Mothers, I encourage you to take joy in doing what you can do best – in raising your children in the fear and admonition of the Almighty and directing them to the Savior who instructed us, “take up your cross and follow me”. It isn’t a simple task … and it isn’t going to be. We have an adversary who is going to make it as difficult as he can because he wants your children.
The good news is, you can defeat him! When you realize that being a wife and mother is the highest and most important calling you could ever fulfill … and that it is what you do best … that no other career could ever fulfill you like this one does … and you pour yourself into your family, filling their lives with love and blessings … and you keep loving … and keep serving … and keep working … and keep praying … and then do it all over again …
… then your children will rise up and call you blessed; your husband also and he will praise you, saying many daughters have done virtuously, but you excel them all. Favor is deceitful and beauty is vain: but you, a woman who fears YHWH, you shall be praised. You will be given the fruit of your hands and your own works will praise you in the gates.
Happy Mother’s Day Y’all!!