How did you “keep it all together” with a bunch of little ones? I have 3 and am expecting number 4. It’s so hard! I want to be that joyful mother but I’m more of a frazzled mother.
This is an excellent question and yes you are right, it is hard … but you can do it. Since I do not know you and your family personally, I am unaware of your family dynamics so I will answer this question “generally” and hopefully my answer will help.
To have peace in the home and “keep it all together”, the children need to have peace and the only way this is accomplished is revealed in the following proverb: “Correct thy son, and he shall give thee rest; yea, he shall give delight unto thy soul.” – Proverbs 29:17
The best book my husband and I ever read on the subject of how to raise our children is What the Bible Says About Child Training by Richard Fugate. There are many books out there on the subject of raising children but this one gives you such a good foundation and explanation of how to apply Biblical directives, that when followed, your children have peace and in turn you have rest.
If you are already aware of the blessing of properly raising your children, then the next thing to do is to put it all into perspective. Organization and thinking ahead helps tremendously. We all need good food and restful sleep. A clean house and clean clothes help us to relax. How to accomplish these things with your family takes thinking ahead and prayer.
Each family has different things going on in their life and therefore planning ahead and scheduling can look different for each family. Do you have a lot of company? Do you leave your home much to go shopping or visiting? Do you travel as a family? Does your husband work a regular schedule or does his schedule change depending on what he is doing? As much as you can, have a “routine” and a schedule but it needs to be one that works for your family.
If you have too much going on, it may be that you and your husband need to decide what needs to be removed from your lives to alleviate some of the “frazzle”. Sometimes, it just comes down to needing to pray for direction in what to do next. There are times that our family has so much going on and I have so many things pulling for my attention, there is no way to accomplish the “need to do” list. At those times, I ask the Father, “What do I do and what do I let go?” Sometimes, we make our lists without prayer and we add to our load something the Father hasn’t put there. Work with Him and the work is doable.
In closing, I want to share something I saw recently that was an amazing sight. An obviously pregnant mother was holding a toddler, while she held the hand of 3 year old. By her dress and manner, it was apparent she was a believer. The young woman was walking at a very slow pace so the young’un she was leading could keep up. She looked like such a beautiful, strong, healthy woman and the thought came to me how rarely you get to see a sight like this. Often in advertising or other places, young women like this would be seen walking a fast pace with clothing suited for the office, or dressed up in a sports-type suit running a race or doing some other sporty activity. But never in these “pictures” have I seen such a look of joy on the woman’s face as on the face of that young mother … who was walking at an incredibly slow pace.
Yes, you are doing hard work right now that often goes against things you may rather be doing (like walking faster) but it is a good work. May the heavenly Father help you as you seek to glorify Him.