In Loving Memory Of My Dear Brother

In Loving Memory Of My Dear Brother

Today I want to remember all the loved ones that have gone on ahead of us to our King of Kings.  Ten years ago a baby boy was brought into this world.  This baby boy was my brother. He was so tiny and lifeless, but we could clearly define his features.  We named him Yosef.  My father built a tiny little coffin and a few days later we laid his body to rest with loving friends surrounding us.

In Loving Memory Of My Dear Brother

That was ten years ago.  I can hardly believe it.  The other day I was sitting on our couch when Yosef came to mind and I realized his birthday anniversary was in a couple days. I realized he would have been ten years old … double digits … the age every child looks forward to!  As I sat there, my heart ached.  I love my little brother and I wanted to give him a big hug.  I wondered what he would look like, what color his hair and eyes would be.  Would he be counting the inches until he was taller than me? 🙂  What personality would he have had?

In Loving Memory Of My Dear Brother

To tell the truth, for many years I never really loved our Yosef.  When he was stillborn, I was so young and I did not really take it to heart that he was my brother just like Tommy and Samuel are.  The birth was life-threatening for my mother and so at the time being, I was more concerned about her.  In the following years I would think of my brother, but it was hard for me to truly love someone whom I had never really met.  But in the last few years the Father has changed that.

I have come to truly love my brother.  I have come to realize there is a missing piece in my life – my brother.  I have come to realize that it is completely fine and good to cry when the tears come to my eyes while thinking of him.  He is my BROTHER!  I used to wonder why the Father took Yosef home at such a young age but now I realize, it does not really matter!  The Father’s plan is always best and I know there is no better place in the whole universe for Yosef to be, because he is with our wonderful Savior.  Yes, it would have been a joy to have another little brother here in our home, but he is in a much better place and I am happy for him!  I am thankful he never had to face this sinful world and all the temptations that are in it.  He is privileged to be an innocent child living in Glory!  Thank you Father.

In Loving Memory Of My Dear Brother

Sometimes it is hard to remember the birth of my brother, it is often easier to try and forget something that is painful rather than to remember and embrace it.  Even though Yosef never took one breath, he was fearfully and wonderfully made and he has a special place in our family.  We love you, Yosef, and are looking forward to the day when we are reunited!

There are many other babies who have been miscarried, stillborn, aborted, etc. and I just want to take time to remember them.  I think too often we do not fully remember and love these little blessings for who they are.  May the Father forgive us for that.  May we truly remember them and love them for who they are, because they are sons and daughters of our Almighty God. May we remember and rejoice that they were counted worthy to live in Glory!

“But Yeshua said, ‘Let the little children come to Me, and do not forbid them; for of such is the kingdom of heaven.’” Matthew 19:14

In Loving Memory Of My Dear Brother

13 thoughts on “In Loving Memory Of My Dear Brother

  1. Dear Sarah….How poignant was your article of little Yosef. It touched my heart because when I was 11 years old, my baby sister, who was 3 1/2 years old, died suddenly. At the time, we were not a God-fearing family, but her death made us all begin to seek for answers, and that is how we all came to know our heavenly Father and our Savior. It took years before all of us were saved, but the tragic event of Trina’s death was the catalyst. I know as you know about little Yosef, that Trina went straight to the loving arms of Abba when she passed from this life, and I will see her, my Mama, Daddy and other sister who have all gone on to be with Abba. Like you said, we don’t always know the why involved in a tragedy, but in our case, I believe if Abba had not used such a shocking event, we’d propably none of us been saved, only Abba knows for sure. I have actually thanked Father for taking Trina because of the wonderful outcome. What a blessing that your family started out belonging to the Kingdom! You may still have questions about the why of Yosef, but you knew and know in your heart Abba’s ways are perfect, whereas we had to go through the agony of questioning with no anwers. But coming to know our heavenly Father as kind and loving answers all questions. He never means anything for our hurt, only for our trust in Him and His decisions and our spiritual growth and maturity.
    Thank you for your article. You are a blessing!
    Love in Him….Charlene

    1. Thank you Miss Charlene for sharing your testimony! What an amazing story. I met a young lady on our last trip to Israel who was from South Africa. One time she was telling me how she had a baby sister who died at the age of 4 from Leukemia. My friend shared how her sister, at such a young age loved Yeshua SO much it was incredible! When my friend shared this, her face lighted up with the biggest smile which blessed and inspired me. To think that a 4 year old had such an impact that 20+ years later her love for Yeshua is still being talked about and blessing and inspiring others … amazing!

  2. I, too, have lost a child in miscarriage. Just a few days ago, some of us were discussing the Biblical backing for believing if they would indeed be in heaven. Some argued against as they were born in sin and hadn’t chosen Christ. I’m wondering if you had some Biblical understanding backed with scripture about the matter.

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    1. Dearest Mama,

      I am so sorry to hear about your loss and I pray the Heavenly Father will continue to comfort and heal your heart. Regarding your question, you asked if I had some Biblical understanding backed with Scripture whether babes miscarried would go to Heaven, because they were born in sin and had not chosen Christ. First off, I personally do not believe that a child is born in sin, unless it is born out of wedlock, and even then I do not find fault with the child because it was not his fault. I could be wrong, but I think when a child is born, they are innocent. To my knowledge, they have done no sin. In Ezekiel 18:20 it says. “…The son shall not bear the guilt of the father, nor the father bear the guilt of the son. The righteousness of the righteous shall be upon himself, and the wickedness of the wicked shall be upon himself.”

      There are different verses that talk about resurrection from the dead when Messiah comes back, but I have not been able to find Scriptures that speak directly to babes that die before they have faced this world and chosen Messiah. In Ecclesiastes 12:7 it talks about when a person dies and it says, “Then the dust will return to the earth as it was, and the spirit will return to God who gave it.”

      While I do not have references to answer your questions, I know that our Heavenly Father loves children (Matthew 19:14; Psalm 127:3-5; Psalm 8:2; Matthew 18:2-6; Matthew 18:10; Mark 9:36-37;), He is merciful (Psalm 116:5) and He is just (2 Chronicles 19:7; Isaiah 61:8;). I can not see Him casting children from Heaven’s gates because they never accepted Yeshua. I think there are many things we do not know about (one of them being this topic), so I think that is why we have to completely trust the Father and lean not on our own understanding (Proverbs 3:5-6). His plan is always best, whatever it may be. Often things do not make sense to us and it troubles our souls when we try and figure them out and so I think that we should seek the Father (Jeremiah 33:3) and walk by faith, not by sight (2 Corinthians 5:7).

      May the Father richly bless you and keep you.

    2. Dear Mama,
      As Sarah said, God is infinitely merciful. It is our belief that He will give every person ever conceived a chance to live an earthly life and the chance to choose His way or reject it. Ezekiel 37 speaks of all the dead being raised to live again. 1 Timothy 2:3 says” For this is good and acceptable in the sight of God our Savior; who will have all men to be saved, and to come into the knowledge of the truth.”
      Miscarried and aborted children will have a chance as well as all the people who have lived out there lives without ever hearing the gospel.
      I hope this encourages you. May the Lord bless you.

  3. Sarah, thank you so much for posting this! I’m the oldest of seven children, and I’ve been struggling for many answers about this subject. My Mom has suffered six miscarriages, and though we have been blessed tremendously with so many sweet children, I feel sick when I think of my siblings that never took a single breath, either. Thank you for posting! It’s really encouraging.

    1. Dear Emma,
      I am sorry to hear about your family’s earthly losses … may the Father comfort and strengthen you and guide you in how to love those who are not with you. It is so wonderful to think about when we will be able to meet with our loved ones in the future … I look forward to that day! Shalom.

  4. Sarah…My son’s passing into heaven anniversary is coming up this month. It’s been 11 years since I last held him in my arms. He was 2 months old when the Lord called him back into His arms. I have come to understand that God is sovereign over all things including the short life of my son, Joseph. I am comforted in knowing I will one day be reunited with him at the feet of Jesus. Thank you for sharing Yosef with me today. I pray you find comfort in knowing God loves you and Yosef very much. Visiting from Graced Simplicity. (You can read more about Joseph at my blog.)

    1. Dear Naomi,
      Thank you so much for commenting and I am so sorry to hear about your loss, that must have been so hard. I will be praying for you as the anniversary comes up. It is such a blessing that you have found strength and trust in the Father no matter what happens.
      Many Blessings, ~Sarah

  5. Thank you for sharing your story, Sarah! My mother had a miscarriage as well and I can completely relate to your feelings about not loving the baby because I was so young. Your post was very encouraging 🙂 Love ya!

    1. Dear Rosi,

      You’re so welcome! Wow … I did not know that your mother also miscarried a baby:/ I’m so sorry! I’m glad this post was a blessing to you. Love ya! {hugs}

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