I received the following comment via email and wanted to share my answer with everyone in case there are any other readers who have the same assumptions.
I am 27. Am I too old to get married in your worldview? Because I’m also very well educated and an accomplished author and my themes are about women in politics. So I’m just wondering if I’m not marriage material in your book. Sorry to sound cynical but I do feel I was lied to that if I waited around Prince Charming would come. That said Jesus is the solution to all our problems and no husband can ever fill that longing in one’s heart.
Thank you for taking the time to express your questions and concerns and I am sorry for the delay in getting back with you. Due to our family being overseas for 6+ weeks, I am still trying to catch up on correspondence! To answer your question, I do not know of any age at which a person is “too old” to get married. I also am not aware of any statements on our website that would lead you to make this assumption, but if there are any, please enlighten me! I believe that people should marry when the Heavenly Father directs them to do so by providing the spouse that He has planned for them since before the foundations of the world, regardless of whether they are 18 or 88 or anywhere in between! I would never, ever say that someone is too old to get married!
In regard to your question about if you are marriage material in my book, my first reply would be: does it matter? Is my opinion so important that you would shape your decisions and lifestyle around it? I hope not! My second reply would be: it’s not my place to determine whether someone is marriage material or not! And I certainly don’t think that because a person is 27, well-educated and an accomplished author, she isn’t fit to be married! Again, I don’t think we have ever expressed such sentiments on this website but feel free to correct me if I’m wrong.
I am sorry that you feel you were lied to but I’m unclear as to what the lie was. That if you waited around, Prince Charming would come? What do you mean by “waiting around”? Just by definition, all of us who are not married are “waiting” for our husbands, but that doesn’t mean that we are “waiting” to live our lives. Maybe what you are referring to is the concept that life doesn’t really start until you’re married? I would agree that this is an incorrect and dangerous perspective to hold. Regardless of whether or not we are married, we should be waking up each day with the determination to serve our Father in heaven and bless those around us.
In reply to your last sentence, I agree that we can find hope and answers to our problems through our relationship with our Savior, but there are certain longings in a woman’s heart that will never be fulfilled outside of marriage and family. If the Heavenly Father desires for a woman to wait many years before He brings her husband, He will provide the comfort and sustenance that she needs, but there are still unmet longings and desires … and there is nothing wrong with admitting that! No, we don’t need to get married and yes, our Savior provides everything we need – but we were created to be wives and mothers. Not everyone is called to that role but the majority of us are. The question is: how can we live today so that we can be like the virtuous woman of Proverbs 31, doing our husbands good all the days of our lives? (v.12) And yes, even when we don’t know who they are!
Thank you again for writing and feel free to let me know if I need to clarify anything I have said. With love in our Messiah, Hannah